Don’t let AI cripple your kid

Be it a simple mathematical calculation, an English assignment for school or for that matter the captions for a reel they are editing, children these days are simply unable to operate without the artificial intelligence tools.

Try an experiment to understand better.

Give your child a small writing task, could be a letter or even a text message in English, without the help of any online tool or search engine. Just leave your kid with a pen and a notebook and check the results. Even a basic task like the stated will turn into a mammoth challenge. Now let your child be in the room with a mobile or ipad or a laptop and try the same exercise. You will have your answer in minutes. Thanks to programs like Chat GPT, all answers are readily available.

Don’t confuse gadget friendliness with intelligence

My uneducated maid’s three year old daughter (doesn’t go to school) is able to operate smartphone seamlessly. She is able to scroll through reels and even save selected ones in playlist. Does this mean she is super intelligent?

We often hear grownups say things like kids today are so intelligent. Look at how comfortable they are with technology. Well of course they are comfortable with smartphones, Bluetooth speakers and laptops; these are akin to toys for them. Children now days are more exposed to gadgets than books. In an average Indian household, at any given time, the number of gadgets on a table will exceed the number of books or newspapers. So if they can operate the keypad efficiently or have exceptionally developed online surfing skills, it doesn’t qualify as an adequate indicator of intelligence.

AI is hampering creativity

If a few clicks can get you all the answers, why bother? Google, Siri, Alexa know it all. Why think … let’s just ask them!

This is the typical mindset of a child these days. Easily available information is making life easier but at the same time, it is restricting the thought process. Rather than thinking about the situation, kids are merely relying on automated system generated responses. Small things like reading a map / chart on the metro station to check the train route seem impossible; they’d rather check the phone for next station details. A child’s creative growth is being largely hampered in the process. Resultantly, practical life skills like problem solving and abstract thinking are taking a major hit!

AI is promoting an emotionally challenged generation

Since the kids are no longer used to the idea of understanding things and preparing for adequate responses, their ability to perceive situations and accordingly manage circumstances is largely being challenged. Owing to the nuclear family structures and working parents, most of the time these days is spent with AI tools, which leads to emotional development issues and creates problems like social anxiety. The dependence on texting is so much that rather than speaking with a person, they rely on emojis to convey the message.

Provide the needed Learning Environment

AI has caused way too much dependence on technology. This excessive technical engagement, coupled with reduced human interaction, is impacting the child’s intellectual and psychological growth. They thus need an environment where they are encouraged to think and express in words. A schema like ‘Conversation Club’, which is driven by emphasis on the art of communication is the need of the hour!

Communication Skills & Academic Excellence

‘Envisage’, ‘social contract’, ‘resplendent’, ‘grievances’, ‘hoarding’… these are just a few words from the very first chapter of the history book grade IX. We’ve all heard our children crib about the complex and boring chapters. We have witnessed their struggles with learning. We have seen them cram up the material and often wondered about the fruitfulness of this exercise. I mean if kids have to memorize those hefty books and not remember a word after the day of the exam, what is the point of it all??

What if the child doesn’t have to memorize it all? What if instead of just trying to remember each and every word of the sentence, they understood the idea covered in the chapter and phrased the answer in their own words. Wouldn’t this understanding of the concept enable long term benefits in terms of academic success?

The stated is just one of the many benefits of improved communication skills in the life of students.

Communication skills for students – See your child blossom!!

  • Better understanding of the scholarly curriculum – As elaborated above, the most critical aspect of enhanced language skills is the apparent ease of learning. Kids who understand the language better are not forced to robotically cram up the lessons. Owing to the evolved communication skills, they comprehend and thus enjoy better understanding and retention.
  • Increased class participation – Being able to comprehend and rephrase in their own words allows kids to ask questions and clearly answer when asked. A grasp of the English language brings clarity and thus enables two way communication between the educator and learner. Comprehension of the concept being taught thus paves the way for enhancement of the oral communication skills.
  • Emergence as a group leader – The one who has a tighter grip on the subject is naturally awarded the central chair in group discussions and class projects. Other students display natural confidence in the kid who is able to explain and thus the opportunities to lead and stand out, naturally follow.
  • Improved performance in written exams – Clarity of the subject and fluent written expression help frame better answers and thus the desired scores. Improved written communication skills further enable structured answers to meet the examiner’s criterion.
  • Overall confidence and life skills – Together the stated facets reap confidence in a child. The verbal and non-verbal aspects of communication ensure a learned and confident approach towards all kinds of academic and non-academic situations. Being able to express allows seamless exchange of ideas amongst teachers and students and parents and children.
  • Enhanced personal relationships ­– The ability to express helps form the desired bonds with other students. Kids face a lot of social issues on account of broken communication. Over dependence on gadgets and AI has fractured their ability to maintain real world relationships and this is where Conversation Club mends the broken bridges.

Working on communication skills is akin to watering the roots of the plant. It is a regular process and with the right guidance and supervision, fruits of success can be reaped. At Conversation Club, we provide a customized curriculum for students wherein the nuances of communication skills are carefully clubbed with academic concepts and thus learning among students is largely promoted.

Communication Skills – The Essential Ingredient of Life

What are soft skills?

Definition – personal attributes that enable someone to interact effectively and harmoniously with other people. Communication skills are an important element of the soft skills.

Communication skills in the life of a student!

Aman and Kriti are in the same grade and academically they are both decent students. In most of the subjects, they both score in the above average category and are usually ready with all answers. However, if you’ll ask teachers, Kriti will be the one they’d recognize in a batch of 40 students in the class. As for Aman, his report cards will reflect decent performance, but his participation in class and ability or rather the lack of ability to verbally express across various platforms ensures that he remains unnoticed. But how does it matter? He is a good student and will secure decent grades!

Well certainly he will perhaps score fine but his inability to effectively communicate will keep him hidden away from all opportunities. Despite being a hardworking student, he won’t be noticed or given a platform to perform even better because he is not able to display the knowledge that he has acquired by way of seamless communication.

Good communication is the bridge between confusion & clarity – Nat Turner

Communication skills in the life of a professional!

Who do you think will have a better chance at the interview, Aman or Kriti? Let’s consider a hypothetical scenario where both have completed the same courses from the same institution and have more or less similar mark sheets. As freshers, they are being considered for a profile that along with the technical skills, requires team work and reporting. Kriti, on account of the enhanced communication skills and exposure received as a student, will clearly outshine Aman and therefore her chances of bagging the job are higher.

Even if we consider a case where there are multiple opportunities and both get selected, the chances of Kriti working her way up the career ladder are much steeper. Any organization, irrespective of the industry or job profile, is seeking employees who can help integrate human resources and outshine as leaders. Honed soft skills, especially communication skills, help achieve the said objective.

Of all the life skills available to us, communication is perhaps the most empowering.” — Bret Morrison

Communication skills in relationships!

Relationships demand a lot of work and still many fail. While there are many reasons behind the troubles encountered by those in these failed relationship, a common denominator is the inability to express and understand each other. Communication isn’t just about saying, it is also about listening. In fact, an important element is the ability to listen and understand what the other person is trying to say. Additionally, one must be able to give appropriate words to the emotions they are going through and thus being proficient at the art of communication makes life much easier.

Ultimately the bond of all companionship, whether in marriage of friendship, is conversation – Oscar Wilde

Communication leads to community, that is, to understanding, intimacy and mutual valuing – Rollo Reece May

Sow the seeds of a happy life with simple communication steps

Once upon a time, we lived in big joint families. There were uncles and aunts and brothers and sisters and relatives who were always visiting. To add to the equation, boundary walls of the houses were tiny enough to peek into the neighbor’s yard and engage in priceless chat sessions over a cup of tea.

Life now however is different. We’ve moved into nuclear setups and neither the uncles nor the aunts have time to visit. Cousins have moved to different states or countries and the houses have turned into buildings where we hardly know the family living next door.

Like any other change, this transition too has its pros and cons. There is independence, privacy, financial growth, etc., but there is also a little too much alone time – the overdose of seclusion. While these changed equations have impacted us all, the younger generation is facing some serious challenges. Kids are glued to their gadgets and their social skills have taken a major hit. No wonder, behavioral issues and problems like social anxiety & lack of confidence amongst kids are evident in every household.   

How to mend the broken bridge??

How do we establish the broken channel of communication? How do we prepare these youngsters to gear up for the world? The lost art of communication … how do we revive it??

  • Walk under the stars – start the tradition of post dinner walk with kids. These casual strolls have multiple benefits. Owing to gadget addiction, children these days are hardly engaging in any kind of physical activity. Moreover, too much screen time and life within closed walls are hampering the mental growth. These walks will ensure physical fitness and gradually, the time spent together will lead to discussions. Do not force your kids to talk, instead share anecdotes from your childhood. Eventually, they will open up and will start sharing their day.
  • Go old school – bring back the old board games from the storeroom; plan gadget free game evenings on the weekends. Clean the spider webs off the carom board, pull out the chess board, find a pack of cards, see if you can grab the box of monopoly; rather than talking about careers, marks and competitions, treat your kids with a stress free evening. Instead of lecturing about the overindulgence of mobile phones and upcoming exams, give them the option of an easy fun time.
  • Give the gift of a channel to express – most kids avoid any kind of verbal communication these days because they are hesitant. The lack of speaking opportunities has led to a silent generation that is way too scared of making mistakes. Help the young ones, overcome this hesitation, this social anxiety, this lack of confidence with the help of communication experts @ conversation club. They need an encouraging platform to express and to freely make mistakes. These crucial ingredients of expression are offered here at CC.

    Remember the most important rule – communication cannot be forced! You cannot just impose the rules when it comes to interacting. Help your child naturally open up; offer the space, comfort and guidance to express and engage.

    Shhh!!! Mental health – don’t talk about it!

    Communication gaps and child’s mental health

    If your child had a cold, you’d look for the right syrup in your medicine cabinet. If the kid hurt his knee, you’d fetch cotton and Dettol to clean up the wound. If there are lice in your child’s hair, you’ll search and buy the suitable anti lice kit. However, if the kid has trouble expressing himself or if the child is not able to understand in school or talk freely with people around her, the reaction is to either ignore the problem or scare them into performing better.

    Why do we Indian parents have such a hard time dealing with mental problems? Why is it that instead of helping our children through these difficult times, we abandon them because of our own irrational prejudices?

    The stigma associated with mental health

    Stigma Meaning – A mark of shame!!!

    My child cannot be sick!!! Do you ever say this to a doctor if your child is running a fever??

    No … you instead look for the best doctor and avail the most suited medication for treatment. However, when it comes to problems related to their social, emotional or psychological well–being, it is all a hushed – hushed topic.

    This lack of understanding, compassion and communication makes the problem even bigger than it has to be.

    Mental health of children and young adults

    Psychological issues do not mean that the person is mad and needs to be institutionalized or disbarred from society. They have varying impacts and in the majority of the cases, the impact isn’t severe. In fact, if treated well in time and dealt with cautiously, the symptoms can be managed and the issues can be gradually minimalized.

    Communication & social skills of children suffering from mental health challenges

    The communication gap is the biggest challenge when it comes to diagnosing & treating children and young adults. On account of the stigma attached with the problem, a large majority of kids facing these issues aren’t even diagnosed properly. Parents are too worried about their societal image and thus instead of assimilating the essence of the problem, they resort to evasion tactics. The desire to ignore and hide the problem allows the poison to spread.

    Even the children themselves are scared of this ignorant public outlook and thus find it unsafe to share their problems with anybody. Their silence takes different forms – some face anxiety and depression, while others opt for a more stubborn approach, where they end up hurting themselves and others around them.

    Foster an environment of empathy and acceptance

    We the parents, educators and the community have to be more accepting. We are all mature adults here and it is imperative that we be more caring and empathetic towards the problems these children and young adults are facing. Mental health discussions aren’t and shouldn’t be considered taboo. As a society, we ought to grow and that shall only happen when we promote life driven by open conversations regarding all fields including mental health in children and adults.

    While the sun hid, old friends showed up for each other

    From kindergarten to school to college, there are so many teachers we encounter in this one life. While most of them are more or less hazy reflections from the past, few are etched in our hearts forever. She could be the super stylish Mrs. Veena who wore the most amazing kurtis or the good old Raghu sir who was always more interested in his kachori than the laws of physics.

    Irrespective of how we remember them or why they left an impression, the one true fact is that teachers are a super important factor that shapes our personalities. The one motivational story that Jha sir narrated almost every other week or be it the emphasis that Sirohi ma’am laid on cleaner language, we are a result of the guidance we got from our educators.

    Someone rightly said that a good education can change anyone. A good teacher can change everything!!!

    A teacher brought hundreds together

    Recently during a solar eclipse, hundreds came together to watch the sun hide in shadows. They didn’t just show up to witness the eclipse, they came for their teacher. Since 1978, their science teacher had been motivating them to learn about the science behind solar eclipse, by promising a watch party at the next event. And now after 46 years since his first commitment, when the universe finally prepared for the eclipse, he prepared to host the party he had been promising for almost half a century. Through a public announcement, he fulfilled his promise and fostered universal trust in the culture of learning.

    While the teacher didn’t expect so many to turn up, students proved how his teachings remained with them. We grow up with a special place dedicated in our hearts for the years we spent learning and this reunion validated the fact. The get together was not about the eclipse; it was rather an expression of gratitude for the guru!

    This change however could be for better or for worse!!!

    While a good teacher can phenomenally shape our future, an ignorant or tired mentor could work in the undesired direction. Pupils willingly or unwillingly tend to follow in their mentor’s footsteps and if this mentor is not up to the task, the detrimental impact could be lasting.

    Teaching philosophy @ Conversation Club – Patience & Persistence

    “Education is not to reform students or amuse them, or to make them expert technicians. It is to unsettle their minds, widen their horizons, inflame their intellects, teach them to think straight, if possible.”

    Robert M. Hutchins

    We comprehend the value of the impact a mentor has on the life of the kid. Early years are especially important and demand diligent tact and patience. In a field like communication, the impact of a teacher is much more strategic. The discussions are largely around practical aspects of life and communication skills training and thus the focus is on the delivery of lessons wrapped around integrity and excellence.

    Communication skills enable growth & mental health!

    Being able to express improves self-image and imparts confidence in kids.

    Communication skills training is imperative for the young ones for numerous reasons. While better communication skills help in every field, when it comes to mental health, the ability to communicate effectively has quite a few advantages. For a growing kid, self-image and confidence are vital ingredients of development and these elements are strongly linked to the child’s ability to effectively communicate in his / her environment. Thus, when it comes to communication skills training, special attention from the very start is a mandate.

    Communication gaps & mental health

    It seems natural that kids talk and convey their message; so what is the whole fuss about communication skills? Well yes, kids talk and they try to send out the message, but the aspect that demands attention is if they are actually able to convey the right message, comprehend what is being said and what happens if they are not!

    To understand better, take the case of an infant. The baby is too young to use words or sign language and thus resorts to crying whenever anything is needed. Parents eventually get accustomed to these signs and the baby’s schedule and thus comply as per their understanding to satisfy the baby. Eventually, this child is expected to make use of spoken words and adequate sentences to express. The growth seems natural and perhaps in the safety of the home environment and in the language used at home, kid is able to convey the thoughts.

    However, as the kid grows and moves out into the real world, things change quite rapidly. From physical surroundings to people, from language to mannerisms, everything changes drastically. Further clubbed with competition and academic pressures, many kids find it quite challenging to maintain pace.

    How can communication skills help maintain the needed wellbeing?

    This challenge which is posed by the outside world, can be countered by enhancing the communication skills. Communication skills training works on a very simple formula.

    Key components:

    • To be able to say / write the desired message using the correct grammar & sentence structure.
    • Ability to patiently listen to others.
    • Capability to hear and understand what is being said, including the meaning of unsaid words and used language tones.
    • Respond in an appropriate manner, using the right set of words.

    Crying for everything might work for a 1 year old, but a 10 year old or a teenage does not have the luxury to simply replace words with sounds. An authentic expression of thoughts is the only solution to the problem. The mentioned components, when suitably mixed, provide the needed communication support for enhanced self-image and self-monitored positive expression.

    Why Conversation Club for communication skills training?

    The focus at Conversation Club is imparting the needed elements of communication, while strictly working as per the individual child’s needs. Customized practical communication sessions for kids ensure learning at a reasonable pace. We understand their struggles and provide a communicative curriculum that enables learning & development.

    Packed everything for survival in an English speaking world?

    Be conversation ready with Conversation Club!

    An actual conversation refers to a meaningful exchange of thoughts and emotions between two adults. While we all yearn for this skill, communication these days has taken many different forms, thereby complicating the underlying rules.

    We are being judged by the way we communicate!

    Communication skills have always been an integral part of our personality. No wonder that in the current global era, which is largely driven by technology, communication skills go way beyond the basic ability to speak. The way we articulate our thoughts and deliver the message is of critical importance. Furthermore, English has been accepted by majority as the language driving the scenario. Be it on a personal or professional front, a speaker with a strong grasp of the English language and thus polished communication skills has an upper hand.

    Be it initiating a dialogue with a gym instructor or a casual tête-à-tête with a possible matrimonial prospect or an online sales call, conversing in English language is a mandate. However, communication skills training is not just mastering the rules of the language, it entails specialization in the art of expression.

    The art of articulation

    Good communication skills go way beyond answering questions in small standard sentences or replying to an email in a couple of copied phrases. A skilled communicator is trained in the art of conversations. Instead of opting to text a few words and emojis, a trained English language speaker is confident enough to pick up the phone and connect over a call.

    Communication skills training provides the needed practice and thus confidence to contribute meaningfully. Practical conversation skills help in every aspect of life. One who is able to assimilate the essence of a discussion is naturally able to participate better. Getting a hang of the language makes one a better listener and thus a better communicator. No wonder, in relevant managerial positions, requiring team management, a candidate adept at communication skills is universally preferred.

    Even in a student’s life, communication skills play a fundamental role. Kids are currently facing a lot of competition in every arena; with expertise in English language skills, the journey to success is quite streamlined. In fact, psychologists are of the opinion that the ability to effectively communicate can also lead to positive mental health. By streamlining relationships and empowering young adults with tools of persuasion, conflict resolution and safe expression, communication skills enhance the overall quality of life. 

    Travel the road with Conversation Club!!!

    Why conversation club for communication skills training? Well, the answer is quite simple. This is a learning channel that focuses on the imperative practical application of the English language. While the basics are gradually worked upon, each session is designed around the functional aspects of communication. Everyday language requirements are a top priority. 

    Furthermore, the sessions are customized by trained language experts to inculcate topics of interest. These discussion based sessions ensure assimilation of all relevant aspects of the communication skills training, without the mundane learning rules.

    Are our lives a testament to the hollow pyrrhic victories?

    Every day is a battle; we wake up to the shrill sound of the alarm clock, spend the day completing one task after another and go back to bed at night, once again setting up the alarm clock. The day just doesn’t seem enough and life goes by. We win accolades, garner compliments and everyday inch towards a successful tomorrow. All steps are taken to fulfill the dream of the ‘perfect tomorrow’.

    As glittery as it appears, has anybody ever lived this perfect tomorrow??

    If I could just get that promotion, all will be sorted. Only if I could impress the boss, I’d have better prospects. Let me improve my grades just by a bit and the admissions will be all streamlined. A slightly bigger house, with better closet space will sort it all out. Another couple of kilos gone and I’ll look perfect. One more degree to the portfolio and my practice will flourish. Let me save enough for an international trip and I’ll be happy. Only if I had enough to buy those beautiful earrings.

    We all constantly con ourselves with such promises as we live. We continue to convince us that there is a recipe for the perfect life and that concocting the desired ingredients will lead to indefinite happiness. And thus we keep setting up battles for us; a new achievement, a new challenge, a new effort and all will be in place. The desire to win these battles consumes us in entirety, but the ‘perfect tomorrow’, seems to keep drifting away with every win.

    Pyrrhic victory – Winning the battle || Losing the war

    How is that possible? What kind of an idiot would lose after winning the battle? The king Pyrrhus of Epirus won the battle. He defeated his opponent, however alongside he also lost everybody he loved and trusted. He lost his friends and commanders who helped him win. Though victorious he was battered and was left with no will to continue the journey of life.

    Why don’t we stand up to these battles? Why do we keep fighting?

    Life doesn’t have to be a defeated war. We keep pushing ourselves with the idea of a better tomorrow, but in the process, we are brutally sacrificing the day that we could have lived.

    Instead of cherishing what we have, we are running behind the every next goal. Instead of enjoying a sumptuous home cooked meal with kids today, we are slaving the extra hours, in hopes of a fancy hotel meal in times to come. The fear of missing out on future joys is so enormous that the simple pleasures that we can live today are being brutally sacrificed.

    The urge to go on after these endless battles is like an addiction. We fight so much that the whole idea of actually enjoying the fruits of these battles seems intimidating. To ensure that the guarantees of a fulfilled tomorrow never end, we forget to live the beautiful today that we have created.

    Life is precious and all we have is now. Stay for a minute and enjoy every shade it offers!!  

    The social media honey trap – how to break the addiction?

    If you can feel phantom vibrations, it is time for a radical detox!!

    Addiction is a strong, compulsive urge to repeatedly engage in a particular consumption behavior, despite adequate knowledge of the negative consequences, thus falling into the dependency trap. Until recently, addiction was associated with drugs, alcohol, tobacco substances, but lately a new addiction forming substance has been added to the list. The drug that we are going to talk about in this blog is the wicked social media.

    Social media disorder (SMD) refers to excessive use of social networking platforms like Facebook, Instagram, and Snapchat, which could lead to negative impact on mental health, relationships, and creativity. Individuals may spend significant amounts of time scrolling or posting, often at the expense of real-life interactions, focus, and responsibilities. Symptoms include anxiety when unable to use phones, distress on account of insufficient likes, and difficulty concentrating on things that really matter.

    Are you the locked cat?

    A pet cat was locked in a room with a red button, merely larger than the cat’s paw, and a container with cat food inside. After hours of trying to break open the container with its paw, the cat finally learned that pressing the button would dispense food. The food though, did not dispense after every click…only a single treat after 5-6 clicks. So, the cat kept on pressing the button till the treat arrived, took a moment to enjoy it, and then went back to pressing the red button, even when it wasn’t really hungry. Pressing the button and getting the treat, though annoying, was addictive enough to keep the cat engaged. Even after the room was unlocked, cat kept on compulsively fidgeting with the button.

    Now imagine you are the locked cat and the button in your locked room helps you scroll through reels on instagram. You keep scrolling until you find one post which satisfies you. It feels rewarding for a moment because the post matches your current state of mind or maybe you somehow relate to it. You take a moment, enjoy the post, and scroll again hoping for a new post that may make you feel similar to what you felt 5-6 scrolls ago.

    The addiction chamber is designed to trap us…how to escape?

    Mobile phones, especially social media platforms are designed in such a manner that they end up engaging us. Platforms like instagram and facebook follow a common theory of infinitism. No matter how much you scroll, you’ll never run out of posts and thus, never get encouraged to stop.

    Furthermore, these platforms analyze our activity and smartly use that information to keep us engaged. Let us assume that you are interested in basketball and comment on a post featuring the same. You’ll observe that from that day onwards, more and more posts regarding basketball will pop up on your feed. That definitely is clever as it paralyses us into ‘never ending scrolling’ as the posts match our interests and seem entirely customizable.

    Addiction is increased by features like notifications, creating a cycle of dependency. The most important measure that can be taken to break this vicious cycle is by avoiding such notifications. Notifications that involve people reaching out to you such as calls and texts should be prioritized but the rest of the notifications sent by apps to allure us ought to be strictly muted. They are sent to stimulate our interest and once again, practically force us to start scrolling.

    Next sharp tactic of the inventors is the color coordination. Humans are attracted by warm tones, such as red. This is the reason most of the apps have changed their icon color to a warmer tone. This is also the reason that the direct message icon in instagram is red in colour. If it were blue or yellow, would it have been as appealing as it is now? To escape this, one can always put their phones in grayscale settings.

    Interruptions should be set! Either set alarms or reminders on your phone to make sure that you don’t become a victim of the infinite scrolling. Apps will not help you but you yourself need to understand that only you can put an end to this. This also involves monitoring your screen time frequently.

    If you can hear phantom vibrations, it is time to hit the emergency button!

    Have you ever experienced a vibration and thought that maybe it was your phone sending a notification but it actually wasn’t? 89% of the people have agreed to the fact that they experience this atleast once every 2 weeks

    This makes us wonder what an impact social media and generally mobile phones have on us. Illusions of vibrations? That is where everyone should draw the line. We need to understand that we are much smarter than the cat and need to severely end this addiction. Is social media and online scrolling really worth losing your hard built self-esteem and focus? Think about it!