We are all meant to be strong; crying is a sign of weakness. The world we live in is ruthless and any sign of weakness will be taken as a failure and used against us.
This thought terrifies, especially when it comes to our kids. We don’t want our children to be fragile. As a parent, we want our kids to be equipped to face the harsh tones of life and thus are often tempted to advocate the idea of ‘no tears’. Boys don’t cry and these days, cause girls are as strong as boys, they shouldn’t cry either. While the idea of gender equality is a welcoming thought, the notion of banning tears is a problem that ought to be dealt with.
Let your mind & heart detox … Crying HEALS!!
Crying is a natural phenomenon, which a human is expected to perform. In fact, there is something medically wrong with those, who cannot shed tears. This exercise of shedding tears is imperative for both body & mind and is not necessarily in response to a negative emotion. Often, we cry because we are happy; tears can reflect ecstasy, achievement and fulfillment. The stated however doesn’t undermine the importance of tears as an expression of grief. Often these tears, help cope with the toughest conundrums and face the hardships life puts us through.
Emotional & Physical Benefits of Crying
- Crying releases toxins – Crying helps release a lot of harmful toxins from the eyes and thus enables natural cleansing. Tears lubricate the eyes and help relieve stress.
- Helps fight pain and initiate self-soothing – By allowing us to release our emotions, we ease pain. Both psychologically and physically, when we cry, we allow ourselves to start the process of healing. This emotional outburst improves our brain temperatures and helps us cool down and restart.
- Crying is a vent – It is not always possible to express in words. Tears act as a powerful mode of communication in such cases. It is often said that tears are words, expressed by the heart. Especially in the case of children, when they are not able to process their emotions, crying helps balance it out.
Create a Safe Space
As a parent or a partner, create an embracing environment. Those whom you love should be able to come to you and express themselves in any manner possible. Rather than creating rules of idealistic behaviour, offer a comforting safe space in your embrace, where they can express, even through tears. Help by initiating the process of healing – promote healthy relationships through open verbal & non verbal communication.
Crying is better than being numb. Only a heart that experiences pain, sheds tears. If we force our kids to completely shut off this strong expression of emotions, we are training them to be robots. Can you imagine the life of a person who does not feel or even worse, is not allowed to express? Tears are a powerful communication tool … embrace the strength of crying.
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